Be Still and Know
If you're manifesting something while moving through anxiety, uncertainty, and more spiral days than you’d like to admit, today’s post is for you
Recently, I learned about the process of anchoring, and you can apply it to anything you want to manifest. First, I am going to share an analogy with you – it applies to my living space.
After a series of unfavorable circumstances I’d rather not go into here, I find myself living in a crappy apartment. It’s about 220 square feet. It has the basics – enough space for a bed, a couch, a TV, a small table. It has a stove with two burners, but no oven. There is a toilet and a bathtub. There is a small refrigerator. There are hardly any electrical outlets, so I have to make my coffee on the bathroom counter. There is no in-unit laundry, only a mildewy community laundry room with several machines out of order.
This was a place to land when I was going through said circumstances and had to find somewhere quick. It serves its purposes, but living here does not bring me much joy or peace.
About a week ago, I signed a lease for a new place. It is a unit that is detached from the neighbors, a small house, but it is still over double the size of this place. It has in-unit laundry. It has a full kitchen with a counter and numerous electrical outlets for my kitchen appliances. The rent is not much more than this place. I remember running across the units online some time ago, before I ever started thinking about moving, and thinking, “How cute! I could see myself living there.” But they were not in my awareness at the time that I started looking seriously and had to make a quick decision. I was not aware of all these things that I would want, so I am grateful for living here, because it has shown me what I do want.
I have already paid the deposit for the new place. The lease gives me comfort that the new place is going to be mine by a specified date. I still have exactly forty-one days before I move into it, because I had to give my current place sixty days’ notice and didn’t want to be stuck with two rent payments.
Even despite the wait and the unfavorable conditions here, I have comfort in knowing that my living situation is going to improve soon. I have been envisioning my furniture in the new place, not because I feel like I have to, but because it’s fun. And yes, the 3D actions of signing the lease and paying the deposit have made it feel more like a certainty. But even before I did those things, I felt a certainty that I would find a better place. I was determined that where I am currently is not where I am meant to be for the long-term. I paid attention to my feelings and adjusted them whenever I felt stuck or discouraged. I had plenty of days where I cried and let myself feel my emotions, but I still knew this situation could turn around for the better.
In this context, anchoring means drawing emotional certainty from one part of your life and applying it to something you're still manifesting. Anchoring is thinking of something that you just know, taking that feeling of just knowing, and applying it to whatever you are manifesting. I just know the new place is mine in the same way I just know that my hair is red and that I’m going to have coffee in the morning. I sit in that feeling of just knowing and apply it to other circumstances I’d like to change for the better – job stress, specific people in my life, money, etc.
Sometimes I drive by my new place. I can’t go in it yet. I can only see it from the outside. But that doesn’t make me sad, because I know it is mine. I am going to move into it. I can’t see what is happening behind the scenes, but I imagine the new place being deep cleaned for me before I arrive. I imagine them tucking my mailbox key and pool pass carefully into an envelope to have ready for my arrival. I imagine the people in the leasing office having conversations. “A nice girl with pretty red hair is moving into that cottage on [street name]. How exciting!”
I don’t have proof that any of these things are happening. I cannot sit in the leasing office and watch them prepare my space or hear them talk about me, but I know that these things must be going on. They will have to occur before I move in. I would look crazy if I requested to sit in the leasing office and watch them prepare for me. I’d probably get the police called on me, or they would wonder about my state of mental health. In fact, it could be counted against me and make them decide they don’t want to let me move in.
Whenever reality is working behind the scenes on our manifestations, it is the same. We can’t babysit, micromanage, or try to push things in the 3D, because that just ends up backfiring and pushing away the things we want.
If you are manifesting a relationship in your life and check the 3D every day to see if that person reached out, or look for reasons why they probably won’t reach out, that is equivalent to me sitting in the leasing office and asking, “Is it ready yet?” I know there is an appointed day for me to move in, so I don’t feel the need to drop by every day to see what’s going on. My only job, now that I’ve signed the lease and paid the deposit, is to sit in this knowing that I will be moving soon. Yes, I can do things in the 3D like pack boxes or make arrangements with movers, but these will be things I do because it is necessary when the time comes.
I don’t need to visualize my furniture in the new place or pack a box every day, or try to force some routine to make it happen because it already is happening. And if I didn’t know the specific date, yes, it could be challenging to sit with that uncertainty. But here’s the thing – even before I had a place locked in, even before I knew the date, I knew I deserved better and that I would have it. I had a clear picture in my mind of how I wanted to live.
Long ago, when I stumbled across that specific complex before I was seriously looking to move, I looked at it without attachment and thought, “That’s nice.” I imagine that must have been over a year ago. Now here I am, moving into it next month. My higher self knew what I wanted even at that time. But it’s perfect that I’m not moving into it until now, because apparently the management company that first took over the buildings was not good. I saw some nightmarish reviews about them. So I don’t feel it is a mistake that I moved into my current place first or that it took the time it did to come to fruition.
So take this and apply it to whatever you are manifesting. The relationship? The money? The improved job? You have it. It may be taking some time for that old story to shift. You have given that story its notice and by standing in your worth, you have signed the lease for that new relationship (be it with a new person or someone you already know), money, or job. It has an appointed date that you may not know, but you don’t need to micromanage or spiral every day until it gets here. When you check for text messages or wonder how it is going to happen, that is the same as me sitting in the leasing office for the next forty-one days. That would be unhinged, right? It would make the leasing agent doubt my sanity.
If it calms me down when I feel the contrast here, I can return to my visual of them getting things ready for me behind the scenes, but I don’t have to go there and physically see it for it to be true.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is nothing. The hardest thing to do is sit in that certainty without feeling like you are waiting. But there is a reason for the time it takes, and sometimes we don’t always know what that reason is.
Wherever you are right now – whether it’s a tiny apartment or a situation that feels stuck – remember: the upgrade is already yours. You don’t have to beg or chase. Just know it. And keep going.